Why Friendship Breakups Hit You Out Of Nowhere

Have you ever been minding your business and all of a sudden a photo memory pops up on your IPhone? How about those snapchat memories that remind you daily of the fun times you used to have? I know for me, I could go without the occasional reminder of how I used to dress or that ex-boyfriend who I'm trying to forget. But, what about those memories with your old bestie? Remember that one friend who was your "right hand" and was basically an extended family member? Yeah, we all have one of those. Now, thanks to social media you are scrolling and reminiscing of all those long nights you two used to have and the "remember that one time" stories pop up in your head out of nowhere. A sense of nostalgia overwhelms you and now all of a sudden, you are missing them after weeks, months, or years of not even thinking about or talking to them.

Friendship breakups are no fun. In my opinion, they're honestly worse than a breakup you would have with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Why? Because you two shared so much together. This was your confidant, the one person you could go to for advice. Depending on the length of the friendship, you may have grown up with this person, went to the same schools, and taken family vacations together. I mean, how can you not miss them? Memories do fade, but don't be surprised if one day you are reminded inadvertently of the good ol' days with an old friend.

Depending on how bad the breakup was, if this person has been on your mind lately I think you should reach out. It can't hurt and won't kill you. This person meant something special to you at one point in time, and for some reason you two separated. And before you say, "But they haven't reached out to me either," that may be true, but who cares? Pride is a wonderful thing to have, but when it comes to the point of being too prideful, there can be a serious problem. Pride will have you missing out on some amazing opportunities and amazing people. Don't let it get in the way of your happiness, please. You never know, they might be thinking about you too, but may be too scared to reach out.

Wondering what to say? Start by a simple, "Hello, how are you?" It's short, and lets them know that you are curious about how they are doing. If they don't text back, give them time. It may be overwhelming for them at first. They might be thinking about what to text back or super emotional. I would give it a day or two, and if you don't hear back from them, don't stress about it. Maybe it wasn't meant for you two to get reacquainted right now. More importantly, they may have been removed from your life for a reason. Could be God and the universe's way of removing toxic people from your life.

I'll leave you with this...whoever is meant to be in your life will be in your life. Let go, and let it flow.